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Don’t Fight to Win, Fight to Love

 “Conflict breeds intimacy.” That’s what my husband Derek and I heard years ago, over and over, as we began our dating relationship. We were working at a group home for teenagers and were surrounded by conflict – about curfews, and clothes, and cussing, and sex. Things rebellious teenagers would normally fight with their parents about. It’s funny that we were put in a position to act as surrogate parents to teenagers with extensive life trauma; not funny in a “ha ha” kind of way but in a “we’re in our early 20s and how did we possibly have enough life insight?” ...
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Starry-Eyed: Sister Courage and Borrowed Light

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Most of the time I can fake my way through life, convincing strangers that I am a fully functioning adult. That is, until a situation arises that I should be able to maneuver with ease, ...
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The Neighbors

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I love a good personality test. Myers Briggs tells me I’m an introvert. Off the charts, actually. The Enneagram test tells me I’m a nine. (I regularly abuse and misuse this information at my convenience.)“Ma’am, ...
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With Love, From MOPS

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Hello, Dearest,With all the tragedy and violence that’s occurred this summer, it can be hard to see the good around us. In the midst of controversy, things can get complicated. Lines are drawn and people ...
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When Anger Touches Others

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I don’t like to call myself an angry person. I am passionate. And as such, I have, on more than one occasion, been the type of person who screams at the top of her lungs, ...
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Life Lessons in Pie Crust

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One of the key components of a great pie crust is the time spent doing nothing. Before you begin, the butter needs to chill in the freezer. After your dough is mixed it has to ...
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The Gifts of Anger

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A wise person told me: The depth to which we feel our sorrow is the capacity for which we can experience joy. This was in the middle of a season where the realities of my life ...
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Don’t Fight to Win, Fight to Love

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 “Conflict breeds intimacy.” That’s what my husband Derek and I heard years ago, over and over, as we began our dating relationship. We were working at a group home for teenagers and were surrounded by conflict
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In the Light: Healing Sexual Intimacy After Porn, Sexual Addiction and Betrayal

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This is part of a series of posts about journeying through a husband’s addiction to porn. I recently shared about what the sexual intimacy healing process has looked like for my husband, Jason, and I in a ...
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Putting Anger to Work for Good

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“I’m never coming to this place again,” said my son.“What? Why?” I asked.“A really mad mom said I pushed the swing wrong. And if I didn’t stop, she said she’d kick me off the playground ...
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Get to Know Your Neighbors This Summer: 6 Ways to Connect

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The spring we moved to Seattle five years ago I didn’t see a single soul outside of our house for more than a minute or two. People moved quickly from their cars to their door, ...
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Pizza Party

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Family pizza night is something everyone can look forward to and celebrate without breaking the bank – whether you’re a family of two or twelve!Italian music optional.YOU’LL NEEDRolling pin Baking/pizza trays Saucepan Can opener Pizza cutter or knifeINGREDIENTSStore-bought pizza ...
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5 DIY Projects That Embrace Rest

5 DIY Projects That Embrace Rest

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You do it all, friend. You’re the cook, the launderer, the house cleaner, the playmate, the peacemaker, the teacher, the caretaker, the chauffeur and so much more. But most importantly, you are the only version ...
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Starry-Eyed: Sister Courage and Borrowed Light

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Most of the time I can fake my way through life, convincing strangers that I am a fully functioning adult. That is, until a situation arises that I should be able to maneuver with ease, ...
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The Neighbors

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I love a good personality test. Myers Briggs tells me I’m an introvert. Off the charts, actually. The Enneagram test tells me I’m a nine. (I regularly abuse and misuse this information at my convenience.)“Ma’am, ...
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With Love, From MOPS

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Hello, Dearest,With all the tragedy and violence that’s occurred this summer, it can be hard to see the good around us. In the midst of controversy, things can get complicated. Lines are drawn and people ...
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5 Phrases to Help Defuse Anger in Children

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Kids get angry like everyone else. Sure, half of the time they get angry over something as arbitrary as wanting to buckle their own seat belt or pour a glass of milk. Sometimes we can ...
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Show-and-Tell: Helping Kids to Play Well With Others

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Helping kids play well with others can be challenging at times. None of us, including our kids, are wired to share, put others first or choose kindness when things don’t go our way. Teaching healthy ...
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Summer Dreaming: 5 Tips for Success

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It’s a beautiful, warm, spring day, and I’m summer dreaming.  Imagine it with me, ladies – relaxing mornings, sleeping in late, long leisurely cups of coffee, afternoons of reading by the pool with a book, ...
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Brave Collective: Nashville

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Traveling south from Nashville, Tennessee, the green hills are lined with white fences. It brings to mind gatherings around farm tables with home-cooked meals. The mood was set as Dalley Galuzzi, Jackie Alvarez and Mandy ...
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Brave Collective: NYC

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We gathered in a second floor Long Island City apartment. It was a couple blocks from the waterfront and the first subway stop in Queens outside of Manhattan. We maneuvered the table into the living ...
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Encouraging Your Brave Collective

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My four-year-old daughter happens to be the biggest fan of me doing the Brave Collective. No, really.She found a shirt with a feather on it and wears it every time I have a Brave Collective ...
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